I think you're either a shoe person, or a bag person. I'm a shoe person.

For the past 7 years, I've predominantly carried a Nappy (Diaper) bag around with me. It's nice enough looking, it's leather, it's extremely roomy and has a million pockets to haul all the essentials around with me. But I've now reached a point where I generally don't need to carry it around with me. My youngest has been out of nappies for around 9 months, so I don't need to carry 5 changes of clothes/ wipes/ snacks/ toys etc with me at all times. This has meant that I'm once more using handbags for general day to day activities, rather than strictly child free times (which have been rare up until recently) or out in the evening.


So, I have 5 everyday handbags, which seem like more than enough to me. I haven't bought a new one for over 2 years. Four of them are Kate Spade, which are different colours (dark brown/ pale beige/ yellow/ persimmon) and were purchased when on huge sale (one was only $90). They're made of quality leather, are well designed and are good every day handbags. I have one 'proper' designer handbag, bought for me by Mr AV nearly 4 years ago for my birthday, and I love it and use it all the time in Winter (it's black). But I really don't feel the need or the pull for any more bags. I don't feel the need for two black handbags, for instance.

Shoes, however, are another matter.

While idly browsing the internet, setting up a Shop it To Me account (brings all your favourite brands on sale to your inbox. This may or may not be a good idea), I spied a pair of hot pink suede Christian Dior strappy high heels half price on Bluefly. Now, I'm not actually in the market for new shoes, but I have gone back and looked at these shoes again and again over the past 2 days. It has taken every fibre of my willpower not to buy them. Reasons not to buy them include:

1. We are renovating our house, and I should spend money on that, rather than shoes.

2. I have enough high heeled shoes, as I generally wear flats every day, and these are going out shoes anyway.

3. I have enough shoes in general.

4. They're still going to cost me $600 with postage and a bad exchange rate, which is not a small sum of money.

5. I have one pair of 'special' shoes (the peacock feather ones), and probably don't need another pair.

But I still want them.



They are not even remotely practical, I suspect they're stagger from the car to the bar type shoes. They're suede, which means if it's raining I wouldn't wear them. They're strappy, which means they're for Summer only. See, the list of why not to buy them is much longer than why I should buy them.

I realise some of you reading will think they're horrible/ not for you... but I think they'd look perfect with a plain black dress, or say my navy and white ikat print dress, or my navy and white chevron print dress, or my pink floral Oscar skirt, or my floral oscar dress.... see - lots of potential wear.



So I'm being very strict with myself not to give in to the devil on my shoulder, and I won't get them, as sad as that may be. But I think from this sort of internal dialogue that I've definitely proven that I'm a Shoe person.

So what are you?

Edited to add: While browsing on Pinterest today, I came across this


The Universe is speaking to me!

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  1. They would look great with everything you mention, it depends how much they are taunting you, I hate that feeling, it can be so all encompassing.
    I'm a bit if both, I like to have a few nice bags and a few good pairs of shoes but not an overwhelming amount.

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    1. They're definitely taunting me... having written the post and revisited the outfit pictures, they're calling to me louder than ever. That, and the fact that there is only 2 pairs left in my size.... need to keep strong!!
      I think you're a bit of a minimalist at heart Tabitha. Something I aspire to! xx

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  2. Let me be he Voice of Reason.

    You should get them.

    x

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  3. Lovely but can't you wait for the sale?? I usually don't want 99% of stuff after a few days. If I still think about it a week later I get them. But I do hate that feeling bc I had it recently for a bracelet...let us know what you do! Xx

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    1. It is on sale! Half price... I know what you mean about not wanting stuff after a while... so I might sit and wait for a bit. Although it's tricky, because there are only 2 pairs left in my size.... but then again, I really shouldn't buy them anyway! xx

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  4. Forget about house prices! What is going on with shoe prices? I remember when the most expensive shoes were 600 bucks full price! I must be getting old...

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    1. Oh yes, you're getting old!! I know a few girls who buy $1500 Balenciaga shoes at Miss Louise in Melbourne. Which makes these seem even cheaper... xx

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  5. Oh Heidi, I hate that feeling too! I'm definitely more of a shoe than bag person.
    I think those shoes are gorgeous and would be a great addition to your wardrobe. Would it be such a disaster to buy them?
    Think of them as a consolation for the thwarted kitchen light fitting.... Oh sorry. I'm such an enabler!
    I'm having similar shoe lust about a pair of Mulberry pumps on NAP..... Agh!
    Let us know if you do need more reasons to buy them!

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    1. Yes, knew I could rely on my Blog friends to help me out with this one!! So far no one's said Don't Do It! I have a few reasons in my head that justify their purchase. None that legit really.... might go and look at your mulberry pumps on NAP to distract me.... xx

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    2. They're not very thrilling, Heidi! Just cobalt blue pumps, but I like the look of them and they're 'only' $495!!!!

      Have you looked for those Dior heels elsewhere? Perhaps you could fine them cheaper somewhere else?

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    3. Ha - yes, they're very cheap! I like them though, you'd get a fair bit of wear with them at work, and you do have a lot of colour in your wardrobe that they'd work well with. I haven't looked around, but as they're already so reduced I didn't think they'd be cheaper elsewhere.... might go and see!

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  6. this is hilarious...it reads as an essay to convince yourself not to buy them...ah, the pull of the quest!

    I have far too many shoes...(an embarrassing number) but my real addiction is handbags...vintage ones, mostly...but the family knows to steer me around handbag displays or they know I won't be able to resist!

    good luck on the resistance path....xx

    ps - am having a lot of trouble leaving comments on your blog....

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    1. Problems with commenting? How so? I haven't turned on word verification, so maybe blogger is having a few hiccups?

      I saw some gorgeous vintage bags in one of the local auctions a few weeks ago - ostrich and snakeskin, 50's mint condition and beautiful. There were 5 of them.... I was thinking about putting a few bids in (they were estimated at $50 each) but forgot!! See what I mean about bags?!

      This is a sort of accountability post I think. I'll hopefully feel too embarrassed to buy them. Although I've been wavering from everyone's comments!! xx

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    2. when i click "publish" the comment just disappears. I have to copy and paste it each time...generally takes 3 goes...i don't see what the pattern is. I have learnt, the hard way, to copy my comment so i can paste it easily! x

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    3. How strange? I haven't had any other comments/emails about problems... do you have this problem on other blogger blogs or just mine? I'm so sorry! xx

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  7. They are hot!!!

    I am a bit OCD and it took me a while to get comfortable with using my first high end designer bag. I'm ok now, but still very selective as to where I take them. I see them as an investment and would love to one day pass them onto my daughter/niece. They can be worn regardless of the person's size :)

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    1. I think that's the way with every new purchase - you won't put the new bag on the ground... then you get used to it and it has all sorts of junk inside it rattling around. Precious no longer!

      I also think that's why the designer bag has been so popular - anyone can have one, even if you don't fit into/ can't afford couture or runway clothing. xx

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    2. The comment got cut off for some reason... I just wanted to add that if I ever bought a $1000 pair of shoes I wouldn't have a heart to wear them on the dirty streets etc. id probably only wear them indoors and on carpet. But then again I am a bit OCD *shy*

      B

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    3. Ha! We all have our limits B! I do know what you mean though... if you got a heel stuck in a grate you wouldn't be terribly happy about it..... xx

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  8. Well, I really love bags but I'm a shoe person too ....flats, heels wedges...I find shoes hard to resist and often buy a pair when I know they may not be the most practical or comfortable so I think you should treat yourself as they are a lovely - a good enough reason to buy!!
    http://missbbobochic.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Oh dear, another enabler!! Shoes + bag person... you're expensive to keep then! xx

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  9. Get them!

    You'll be wheeling them out more often than you think ~ you have plenty of gorgeous outfits to wear them with.

    xx






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    1. That's exactly what I've been thinking....! xx

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  10. Gosh, I had a shock when I arrived on that 1st picture; I'm blogging (or I rather I will endeavour to) from a tiny iBook and I didn't see the legend immediately, I was so envious ! Anyway I can't believe you got a Kate Spade for $90 ; I am glad I just embarked on a very strict frugality stint (yesterday !) otherwise I would have screamed at you to give the name of the website (don't !). I'm sure the shoes would look great on you and they are cheap (I can't believe I'm typing that) ....for Dior so it's really a personal call. I love FF's comment ... Reason is really a different concept to different people, isn't it ? As for shoe or bag, I'd have to say : both ...XX

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    1. That's so funny SB!! The day I own 4 Birkins would be miraculous indeed! When you want to know how to buy Kate Spade cheaply, let me know... it's very easy....
      For Dior shoes, I think they're fairly reasonable too...! xx

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  11. Bag person definitely. Shoes hurt!! LOL. Bags don't.
    I do love those shoes. I don't want to be enabler because I am all for getting a gorgeous kitchen and not compromising because of a pair of shoes. . but . . I think they would work into your wardrobe just nicely with your outfit suggestion pics.

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    1. I think they'd work in well too. I was hoping for a few more commenters telling me well done for being strong, rather than buy them!! I do have a long list of things to spend money on with the reno, but that makes the shoes seem like a drop in the ocean frankly! xx

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  12. Don't we all want to know how to buy Kate Spade cheaply? Are you at liberty to disclose?

    The shoes would look great on someone else but they're not for me. I couldn't walk five metres in them! Bags are much easier on the joints.

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    1. You just buy through the Kate Spade website in the US. They won't ship internationally, so you have to use a reshipper (they will accept your Australian credit card though). They have a very good Sale section, constantly. If you sign up for their emails you get a discount (think it's 15% off your first order), and you're also notified of their clearance sales, or when they do an extra 25% off the sale items... some items end up 85% off. So, no great secret, but I've bought all my Kate Spade stuff that way including shoes, bags jewellery and a few clothes.... and it works out really cheaply, even with reshipping factored in. xx

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    2. Oops, just read that by mistake, darn it !

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  13. I hate to be a party pooper but I wouldn't buy them. Too sensible. Right now you have other financial priorities. That's not saying never get fabulous shoes ever again but not those just now. There will be other pretty shoes on sale later. Sorry to go against the tide! xx

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    1. Thank you for being the voice of reason Bonita! xx

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  14. Hi Heidi, just discovered your blog recently and loving it! We are renovating a California bungalow style queenslander up in Brisbane and we are at similar stages in our reno - actually I just snuck ahead of you with some decent weather- and I just dropped a grand on my house to give her some Manolos (she had stumping issues) and just ranted as such on my blog. I say go the shoes, they are BEAUTIFUL, does not get better than mulberry suede really, and frankly you will have to drop $500 minimum on a toilet and you wouldn't even think twice about it, yep a toilet ( I have to order two of the blighted things) and I guarantee those shoes will give you a lifetime of joy that your white vitreous china never will. Sorry about the enabling, I have hooves for feet and could never squeeze into anything that high or glorious but am more than happy to live vicariously through your mulberry suede purchases. ps my husband and his meddling opinions held up my kitchen design for a good year! mel x

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    1. Hi Mel, I think you would have snuck ahead of us by quite a bit.. not a lot of action this week so far, and we're about to get bad weather again. Grrrrr! Fortunately we don't have bathrooms as part of this bit of the reno... but we have done, and I feel your pain. They're not cheap and not that exciting to buy! Will pop by your blog to say hi later. xx

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  15. Oh well, yes, those are special shoes. I am not 100% sold on the plastic buckle, but I agree that they'd elevate every outfit. But yeah, that is a lot of money!

    I am not too much of either, but if pressed I'd say I am more of a shoe person. Just this last weekend I indulged in my first pair of really nice shoes. I can see the slippery slope already. My husband has been trying for a couple of years to talk me into wearing "statement" shoes (he has a vision...I sound sarcastic but he has a good eye). The one pair that I own do a lot for any outfit. So, yep, just bought another pair of bolder shoes.

    Bags, I have no real taste for. I prefer to carry the lightest bag that I can possibly find as my shoulder gets irritated easily.

    I am a stickler for comfort with bags and shoes, which really does narrow the options down quite a bit.

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    1. I think i love your husband Abby!! He sounds like a keeper to me...!

      I'm afraid I've always found really comfortable shoes (Birkenstocks etc) to be depressingly ugly. I've also found in the past that shoes that cost more don't necessarily equal more comfort.

      Statement shoes will definitely make an outfit - my peacock feather ones have really lifted some fairly dull outfits out of the ordinary. xx

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  16. I am a shoe person as well! They are beautiful shoes...but $600 is quite steep. Seeing as they are party shoes, I have a feeling they will cut the price a bit more, especially since they are Bluefly. It won't be easy, but I'd suggest waiting for the price to drop one more time.

    I know all about the feeling of wanting something but having other, more important, financial priorities. I am trying to make a career change and so I am at home with the children right now. All the spare money goes towards the kids' Montessori school tuition fees.

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    1. But there's only 2 pairs left!! If I wait they may sell out before they cut them more!

      I feel your pain re being at home and therefore tighter money situation. Things have changed for us now, but the first couple of years at home with the first baby were definitely tougher, and I went without new things (of a definite non designer nature) for a long time. xx

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  17. I'm with you Heidi, a shoe person (although have a very soft spot for Kate Spade anything!) the shoes are fabulous, but we are both renovating houses! Every house needs a house warming though - yours could be in summer? x HH

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    1. Oh yes! The housewarming! Another excuse to buy them....! xx

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  18. I'm afriad I'm a bag.....person....however I did give birth to a daughter whose first word was 'shoes' so I do sort of understand! Life is too short for regrets....and shoes are so much cheaper than bags! Rx

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    1. I thought you were a bag lady Romy! Love that 'shoes' was your daughters first word too. E. has a tendency to steal my good shoes and hide them in her wardrobe. Fortunately I think her feet are going to be much bigger than mine and she likely will never fit into them when she actually would be an age to steal them and wear them to the pub! xx

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  19. Heidi, if you are still looking at them after two days, buy them - you already have items in your wardrobe they will work with. Love strappy heels, the price seems very reasonable for Dior and you will look fabulous in them 'stagger' or not. You can probably tell from my reply I am a shoes person. Too many handbags are too much hard work for me - On a regular basis I envitably forget to transfer items from the handbag I am no longer using to the one with me at the time and need - such as a the security swipe to get into work! Have a great week! Karen

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    1. Oh yes, the swapping stuff between the bags gets very tedious. So another shoe person telling me to buy them!! The dilemma! xx

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  20. Get them - for tomorrow you could be hit by a bus.

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    1. Well, lets hope not - they wouldn't have arrived by tomorrow if I did get them! But you're right, life's too short for bad shoes. xx

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  21. I'm all for pragmatism. Can you return them if they don't live up to expectations/don't fit? If you can, then it is No Contest. If they are non-returnable, buy them anyway. Regret is such a hard emotion to live with.

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    1. You can return them.. but I like your rationale at any rate Minerva! There are a few things that I haven't bought clothes/shoes/ bag wise that I do regret and still think about. xx

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  22. Dear Heidi
    Just adore those sandals. Fabulous colours together and would work so well with your summer things. My mother always said, if you really love something - and you can afford it - then buy it. Or forever after you will always be looking for something similar but it won't quite measure up. Agree about regrets for loved things not purchased!

    Wish I could wear sandals like that! I have to wear depressingly ugly things these days but it doesn't stop me eating my heart out. Luckily I'm more a of a bag, scarf, jewellery person. Or so I tell myself! Best wishes with your decision making, look forward to hearing what you do. Pamela

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    1. I think it was the colours that really grabbed me Pamela - I love a rosy/ raspberry pink (although I'm not a pink person normally, I do like that particular shade), and I also love the contrast heel and buckles. I like your mother's saying... I've been trying to be more sensible with clothes purchases (such as the Joseph jacket debacle recently), and it hasn't really worked that well. Sometimes I think you've just got to get something that pulls at you.
      I know you'd look wonderful regardless of what you feel you can't wear or miss out on. Bags and scarves are a pretty good place to start (and jewellery... that's always good!) xx

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  23. Regret is for wimps. Buy those babies. (Plus your Pinterest browsing says to me that The Shopping Gods Have spoken. And they must be obeyed.)

    T

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    1. They must indeed T! And the tipping point, aside from the 20+ comments telling me to buy them was that there was a tiny bit more discounting, plus a coupon. Plus Mr AV just looked at them over my shoulder and told me they were nice and to get them! Hope they fit. They are going to be my Shoes of Shame. I have poor willpower. Clearly! xx

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    2. Laughing because I almost said on the bottom of my comment. "Bet you've already bought them!"

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    3. Ooh! You got them!! I'm so pleased! You must post some pictures when they arrive!
      I am so, so close to getting those blue Mulberry pumps......

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    4. I'm so transparent. I really did try very hard not to buy them. But I succumbed to peer pressure in the end!

      Please buy your Mulberry shoes Ruth. It will make me feel better! xx

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    5. Done it!! Oh we are such terrible enablers, aren't we?
      I've been obsessively checking that my size was still in stock for the past couple of days, which is a sure sign I'm going to give in!
      Yay for new shoes!!

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    6. Oh Goody! That message on Pinterest was talking to you too!! xx

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    7. Dear Heidi
      You were meant to have them. Wear and enjoy, no guilt or regrets. Specially good that Mr AV saw and liked. How could he not! Pamela x

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  24. Hi Heidi
    I'm back from holiday and had a great time catching up on your posts!
    Love love love the shoes... I think I must be a shoe person too. But both bags and shoes have suffered from such huge inflation in the last 5 or so years. I remember getting a celine bag for around £300 and blahniks for £180/200 (admitedly both in the sales) when I first started working in 2006. I'm glad now that I was reckless with my first few pay cheques as I use all my designer haul from then today. Last night the blahniks got an outing at the Royal Opera House.
    Have you a birthday or something comming up which can help justify buying them. They would look fab with the outfits that you have posted.
    charlotte x

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    1. Hi Charlotte - hope you had a great time on your holiday. I remember shoes being a lot cheaper back then.... but only when we shopped overseas (Australia is ridiculously expensive for everything). I went to the Barney's warehouse sale in NY in 2007 and was shocked at how cheap it was - Chloe and Blahnick's for $150 US a pair. The saddest part of the sale was that I was with my 21 month old... who found the experience terrifying. You've never seen speed shopping like it!! I shoved shoes on like a mad person before buying a pair. In and out in 20 minutes (and full of regrets of what I'd had to leave behind!).
      Love that you still wear your shoes from back then too. I think quality and good design do last. xx

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  25. Love the shoes Heidi and the fact that you bought them ... I think they will really suit you. Unfortunately, due to a knee reconstruction and two operations on my foot, I am not able to wear much more than ballet flats, loafers and flat-heeled boots!! Hence I am more of a bag person. My huband bought me a lovely designer bag in the States last year (which he did a fantastic job of choosing). He was quite proud of himself as he thought he knew all about designer labels as he visited stores which included Calvin Klein, Prada, LV and Gucci (which he pronounces rhyming with duckie!!). I told him designer knowledge is not much use when you can't even pronounce the names!! Hope you a great (albeit wet) weekend. Jo xx

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    1. That's very sad re the knee reconstruction... I often wonder when my high, high heel days will be over (I've already started to dismiss many shoes based on heel hight. Somehow these still got over the line!) Your husband did very well to buy you a bag - especially to go into all the stores to select it. Mr AV only does a quick duty free shopping thing when he gets me something from overseas. I think my bag that he gave me was bought in Hong Kong airport while he was waiting for his plane to come home and had 5 minutes to spare! Have a great weekend Jo xx

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  26. Congrats on your new shoes! They are delightful! I'm in the same boat as you regarding bags- so used to nappy bags, finding myself in a new world, when I'm without toddlers in tow.

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  27. I must pin the shoe quote! Thank you for your comment about the Vogue Café. I believe it's a partnership between Vogue's publishing company, Condé Nast and a local food and management company. There is one in Moscow and plans for more in other locations.

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